Two days ago I shared re the need of change and the great pain that can be entailed. Why is change so challenging and often gut-wrenchingly painful? It has to do with the ego which is resistant to becoming other than a citadel for self-interest. When we came into this world we found ourselves in a “world that is always already underway.” Our family was a context, a “milieu” which was rigidly structured by the emotional and, therefore, unconscious assumptions of the parents and any child that had preceded us. My research has suggested that our fragile ego responds with a salvivic capability of “assessing” this milieu and formulating its response. Our “response”, however, will quickly become rigid also which is part of our neurological wiring. But that rigid structure, regardless of how open-minded we might be, will always be resistant to change. This rigidity is also “hard-wired” as we need to filter-out much of the “stuff” that comes our way to maintain ego-integrity If we had no filter…or one that is wired….maladaptively…we would submit to every demand of change that comes our way and our life would look like a “sheet in the wind,.”
This is where the Pauline “discerning spirit” is applicable. This quip from the Apostle Paul is an admonishment to employ what Hannah Arendt has described as an, “internal dialogue,” which iis to have second-thoughts about what we are most sure…especially those “noble-sounding” bromides that we religious people are want to cling to. Let me paraphrase the wisdom of Paul into a modern bumper-sticker, “Don’t believe everything you think.”
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