“Judgment” vs “Judgmentalism”

In Shakespeare’s marvelous play, Hamlet, Laertes is grieving for his sister Ophelia who he then sees as demented and laments that she is, “Divided from herself and her fair judgment without which we are pictures are mere beasts.”
Shakespeare understood a dimension of judgment that is often not considered, that being that “judgment” is merely a decision or choice. For example, cultures always evolve a legal system in which miscreants stand before a judge or tribunal for some misdeed and there the community tells him/her, “We do not approve of the choice that you made on such and such occasion.” The collective thought reflects the decision of what is “good” and “bad” for the commonweal of that tribe. In this hypothetical illustration, a community makes a “choice” and exercises power, declaring, “we will not abide that behavior” and will then impose consequences even up to the point of death in some cultures. (This brings to mind another observation in the same play, “There is nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so.”)

But, on an individual level…such as with Ophelia…we also exercise judgment and make choices all of which have consequences. But Shakespeare noted that Ophelia’s judgment was impaired so that her world was rigidly bifurcated between people as “pictures” or “mere beasts.” He was describing persons who see people only through two prisms—the extreme of a one dimensional idealized fantasy such as a “picture” or the other extreme…also a fantasy…a “mere beast.” Shakespeare recognized that we are infinitely complicated creatures and that our perception of others has to include the nuances between the two extremes. Yes, we are “pictures” but also “beasts” but also everything in between. And, this same impairment of judgment influenced Ophelia on the issue of “to be, or not to be” leading to seize the “bare bodkin” and take her life.

This brings to my mind the Christian notion of judgment and “judgmentalism.” Many Christians are proud that they are not “judgmental” and will piously announce this fact. However, that itself is a judgment!  Judgment is intrinsic to the human experience and we cannot help but make judgments if we have any degree of functional ability; and, come to think about it, we do so even without that level of ability! True, Jesus said, “Judge not that ye be not judged” but I don’t think that He meant that we should be so naive as to think we never exercise judgment. Jesus was merely saying, “Hey! Sl;ow down. When you are so quick to see the mote in someone else’s eye, take pause and realize that there is a beam in your own eye.” Yes, there are many times when we must exercise judgment and take a stand but if we find that we are “taking a stand” and making moral pronouncements a lot of the time, we might take pause and look closely in the mirror. “What we see is what we are.” Just to exercise judgment does not make us “judgmental” but when we find ourselves standing in judgment often of others, we might take pause and consider that “What we see is what we are” I’m learning to do this myself and the experience is not very pretty!

5 thoughts on ““Judgment” vs “Judgmentalism”

  1. Anne-Marie's avatarAnne-Marie

    I am learning this too and it is also not pretty. However, there is also a relaxation that goes with it, a sense of acceptance of oneself and a sense of being one with others. I haven’t your literary knowledge (probably no where near) but I love the way you tie in famous authors and poets with the writings of Eckhart Tolle, Richard Rohr and Thomas Merton (all of whom I love).

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    1. literarylew's avatar21stcenturyxstian Post author

      Thanks so much. Yes, I know what you mean by that relaxation though I know it so faintly. I have a lot of “words” about it…as I demonstrate here…but I really have a hard time letting go.

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  2. alohaleya's avataralohaleya

    great post, lew – thanks for letting me know about it! i agree that “Judgment is intrinsic to the human experience” and it is not realistic to claim we are without judgment. this is virtually impossible since we are constantly faced with new experiences (and triggers) each day, and the ego never stops sizing things up.

    that said, we can be aware of our judgments and with this comes the detachment from them – observing them with as much neutrality as possible, thereby lessening their charge (and frequency). i used to judge myself all the time for being ‘judgy’ – but now realizing the bigger, more real part of me is about love and connection, so i try to remember that whenever i’m being hard on myself. thanks! aleya

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    1. literarylew's avatar21stcenturyxstian Post author

      I am currently beset by the judgmental “being hard on myself.” But that Old Testament God must be taking the weekend off as I’m feeling much better today. Thanks. Btw, I have much more to say about “judgment” and what I’m learning about myself. Hope to be posting regularly again soon.

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